Oo.Summer.oO
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''Life's a journey, not a destination.'' -Steven Tyler
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Post by Oo.Summer.oO on Oct 30, 2007 19:01:55 GMT -5
Old patterns die hard, my friend. I completely agree though. The thing is if he's not happy and whole within himself, then that love can't happen. Not to say that he already isn't, it's just my two cents. Yeah like that saying ''If you don't love yourself, how can anyone else''. I think he's afraid of letting people to close. Close enough to get hurt. I don't know him though. Just basing it on how much i do know. I just get that feeling.
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Post by vivianne on Oct 30, 2007 19:34:58 GMT -5
I have the same feeling too, although I have no real idea.
Right, that is the saying, and that's exactly what I mean.
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Post by little wing on Oct 30, 2007 21:59:29 GMT -5
seriously?? I'm sorry, but this made me laugh so hard. In my world, there are PLENTY of examples of wonderful, happy, adjusted children. And furthermore, if children are going to be BLAMED for the strain of an adult's relationship, then that is just plain SAD. They are not the problem. The ADULTS are to blame. Sad, just plain sad. i really dislike mothers judging each other, especially in such an obtuse, simplistic and patronising manner AND I REALLY DISLIKE RANDOM PEOPLE JUMPING IN ON A CONVERSATION THAT THEY ARE NOT ORIGINALLY A PART OF.nobody here suggested children are to blame in anyway for relationship woes, and of course its the parents who have to take responsibility for their own relationship when its under pressure, because obviously they are the adults CASE IN POINT TO MY PREVIOUS BLUE STATEMENT ^ UM, YES IT WAS 'SUGGESTED' THAT CHILDREN ARE TO BLAME FOR RELATIONSHIP WOES. READ UP IF YOU'RE GONNA JUMP IN ON A DEBATE.parents who genuinely do blame their children must be as rare as perfect parents and as for children gaining independence as they grow beyond babyhood; it doesnt simply stop when they can wipe their own bottom, the pressure continues, its just comes in various other guises OKAY, NOW I'M BEGINNING TO THINK YOU HAVE A PERSONAL VINDETTA WITH ME. WE ARE ORIGINALLY (AGAIN, READ UP) TALKING ABOUT A BABY NEEDING SACRIFICIAL ATTENTION 24/7, NOT A GROWN CHILD NEEDING ATTENTION VIA 'VARIOUS OTHER GUISES'and comparing the technical expertise of a male obstetrician to that of someone who isnt a parent is not the greatest of comparisons, if you give it any thought IT'S NOT A COMPARISON, IT'S AN ANALOGY - MIGHT I POINT YOU TO THE NEAREST WEBSTER'S DICTIONARY TO LOOK THE WORD 'ANALOGY' UP BEFORE YOU FLAP YOUR GUMS AGAIN.yes, i am a parent. but this is an old, and now off-topic thread SO THEREFORE, YOU WON'T BE REPLYING TO MY REPLY, YES? GREAT! (Do us a favor, and just READ )
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Post by Hermit on Oct 31, 2007 9:07:50 GMT -5
^^ wow ... ok now I feel better and can relax a bit ...
yes children challenge parents ... and parents are guides to their children, even if the child chooses a different path .... as flea said 'love is the answer' ... so ... heather or no heather, I know little Bear will be greatly loved by his father ...
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Post by little wing on Oct 31, 2007 11:26:46 GMT -5
yes children challenge parents ... and parents are guides to their children, even if the child chooses a different path .... as flea said 'love is the answer' ... so ... heather or no heather, I know little Bear will be greatly loved by his father ... I don't doubt that the baby will be loved by his father, but why are you so bent on pushing H out of the picture?! She is his MOTHER for crying out loud, not an egg donor! And how do you know that they're not making wedding plans this very minute? Furthermore, how do you know if they're not already secretly married? All these things are possible...
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Post by Hermit on Oct 31, 2007 11:29:12 GMT -5
^^ If that is what Anthony chooses for his happiness, then so be it ... I personally don't think they are a good match, but who am I to tell Anthony what to do ... I just want him to smile, be loved and blessed all at the same time.
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Post by little wing on Oct 31, 2007 12:05:10 GMT -5
^^ If that is what Anthony chooses for his happiness, then so be it ... I personally don't think they are a good match, but who am I to tell Anthony what to do ... I just want him to smile, be loved and blessed all at the same time. Well then maybe YOU should marry him and pop out his babies! lol.
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Post by Hermit on Oct 31, 2007 12:24:13 GMT -5
Oh that's right .... let me find his phone number and figure out my ovulation days ... fck that ... we'll just keeping screwing until it happens ... baha ... now .... where is that man's phone number?
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Post by Hermit on Oct 31, 2007 12:26:06 GMT -5
little wing has left the building
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Post by vivianne on Oct 31, 2007 12:28:02 GMT -5
I'll happily volunteer for that position...hehehe
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Post by she's the receiver on Oct 31, 2007 12:31:02 GMT -5
i really dislike mothers judging each other, especially in such an obtuse, simplistic and patronising manner AND I REALLY DISLIKE RANDOM PEOPLE JUMPING IN ON A CONVERSATION THAT THEY ARE NOT ORIGINALLY A PART OF.nobody here suggested children are to blame in anyway for relationship woes, and of course its the parents who have to take responsibility for their own relationship when its under pressure, because obviously they are the adults CASE IN POINT TO MY PREVIOUS BLUE STATEMENT ^ UM, YES IT WAS 'SUGGESTED' THAT CHILDREN ARE TO BLAME FOR RELATIONSHIP WOES. READ UP IF YOU'RE GONNA JUMP IN ON A DEBATE.parents who genuinely do blame their children must be as rare as perfect parents and as for children gaining independence as they grow beyond babyhood; it doesnt simply stop when they can wipe their own bottom, the pressure continues, its just comes in various other guises OKAY, NOW I'M BEGINNING TO THINK YOU HAVE A PERSONAL VINDETTA WITH ME. WE ARE ORIGINALLY (AGAIN, READ UP) TALKING ABOUT A BABY NEEDING SACRIFICIAL ATTENTION 24/7, NOT A GROWN CHILD NEEDING ATTENTION VIA 'VARIOUS OTHER GUISES'and comparing the technical expertise of a male obstetrician to that of someone who isnt a parent is not the greatest of comparisons, if you give it any thought IT'S NOT A COMPARISON, IT'S AN ANALOGY - MIGHT I POINT YOU TO THE NEAREST WEBSTER'S DICTIONARY TO LOOK THE WORD 'ANALOGY' UP BEFORE YOU FLAP YOUR GUMS AGAIN.yes, i am a parent. but this is an old, and now off-topic thread SO THEREFORE, YOU WON'T BE REPLYING TO MY REPLY, YES? GREAT! (Do us a favor, and just READ ) analogy, it was on the tip of my tongue as i typed but i couldnt be bothered to wait until it came to me. thanks apart from that ill just add 'wanker' to your list of attributes
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Post by Hermit on Oct 31, 2007 12:33:16 GMT -5
I'll happily volunteer for that position...hehehe hopefully multiple positions ;D
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Post by Hermit on Oct 31, 2007 12:34:40 GMT -5
wanker hahaha I haven't heard that in awhile
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Post by vivianne on Oct 31, 2007 12:36:06 GMT -5
I'll happily volunteer for that position...hehehe hopefully multiple positions ;D uh huh ;D
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Post by vivianne on Oct 31, 2007 12:39:40 GMT -5
^^ wow ... ok now I feel better and can relax a bit ... yes children challenge parents ... and parents are guides to their children, even if the child chooses a different path .... as flea said 'love is the answer' ... so ... heather or no heather, I know little Bear will be greatly loved by his father ... What do feel better about?
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Post by Hermit on Oct 31, 2007 12:44:05 GMT -5
Listening to little wings rant made me realize somethings and relax a bit ...
There is a lot for her to learn in life ... if you are a parent of child past the age of one, especially, then you know those little lessons life hands you via your children. My boy is about to turn 18 ... my little man is all grown up ... but I know he'll still need his mommy.
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Post by vivianne on Oct 31, 2007 12:48:00 GMT -5
oh okay, I got ya
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Post by little wing on Oct 31, 2007 14:50:38 GMT -5
Listening to little wings rant made me realize somethings and relax a bit ... There is a lot for her to learn in life ... if you are a parent of child past the age of one, especially, then you know those little lessons life hands you via your children. My boy is about to turn 18 ... my little man is all grown up ... but I know he'll still need his mommy. Hey, I know there are at least a 1/2 dozen movie sets that could employ you Spot! :lol:
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Post by Hermit on Oct 31, 2007 15:49:58 GMT -5
^^^ really? That'd be great! I need to make some better money to fix my house that's falling apart, door by door, stove, by bathroom, ceiling to floor.....
Meh! I know you are just giving me a hard time.
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Post by little wing on Oct 31, 2007 17:07:57 GMT -5
^^ yup
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